Guys, do you have trouble understanding your wives?
No, this isn't a trick question!
Most husbands do find it difficult to comprehend a woman's point-of-view. It isn't a defect in either's thinking, rather just the way thought processes differ by gender.
(Ladies, this is aimed at the men, so you may find it overly obvious. If so, print out a copy, and leave it on his breakfast plate.)
Look, bud, your wife is NOT the same as you. God made her different for a reason! She completes you in a way nothing else can. She makes you stronger, as well.
Think not? What happens inside you if some total jerk comes up to you both on the street, and tries to accost her? See what I mean?
With God and your wife in your marriage, you can do almost anything.
But, what happens?
Sometimes she says things that make no sense to you at all, or asks questions that you KNOW she already knows the answers to, or wants your attention when you'd rather be doing something else...
In the back of your mind maybe you are noticing she isn't quite the teenager you fell in love with. When do you suppose that happened? Possibly during the years she cared for you, kept up your home, had your kids, AND balanced all this with working a job as well, just to help make ends meet.
In Eph 5:28-31 we read; "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh." (kjv)
Awesome, isn't it? (There is real power in the King James)
You know, guys, she is very aware that she is a little older. Our society reinforces her fears that you will no longer appreciate her as much as you did once. Television constantly depicts younger women as being more attractive, and yes, even more desirable. It isn't fair to her. She needs to be reminded of your continuing love, & of your devotion to her. Don't let complacency destroy your relationship! She needs your love and attention to be the strength you need when your job stinks, when major problems arise, and especially when you feel you are carrying the world on your shoulders.
Call her up unexpectedly when you're at work, remind her that you love her, and were just missing her and thinking of her. Ask her out on a date (sure, I know you're married, but that doesn't mean she has stopped being exciting, does it?). Do little things for her, unexpectedly. Stop by Wal-Mart on the way home and buy her a single rose. Get her some ear-rings, just because it is NOT her birthday. Tell her they looked lonesome without her. Propose marriage to her AGAIN! She needs to know your love for her is real, and constant. No other woman has ever given you what she has, right? Be sure she knows it! Remember how much she means to you, and has meant to you. Hey, she married you and not pimple-faced Ziggie Pflugelmeister from college, right?
Keep your marriage strong. Keep God centered in it. Keep your wife loved and content, and always reminded of your devotion. She will continue to be there to reinforce you, love you, and care for your kids. When disaster strikes, you will be each other's strength. It is what God intended, what more can you ask?
Walk with God.
Mr Mike
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Ziggie Pflugelmeister, huh?
ha ha ha
Nicely put, Mr. Mike. Nicely put!
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